We are meant to love. We are built for it. We need it. A simple enough concept, but not always remembered.
Finding people's faults, making them worse than you - it accomplishes a purpose. It gives you a connection with someone else, something to talk about, agree upon. It can be satisfying to make a connection by ignoring another. But it is also this ordeal to overcome. When you see them you have to avoid them and be aggravated with them. So much energy and thinking wasted upon separating yourself from the person.
One day though, one day that person will be standing in a different light. Something for some reason will make their vulnerabilities appear. Then you will see that they are looking for the same things you are. They want to be validated. To know they are decent people. To be seen, truly truly seen. And when you take the time to see them. To meet them in their vulnerable place, THAT is satisfying. Satiating. Living. Because you've created a similarity with another person. You've understood again that you are not the only person struggling through ambiguity to clarify how you want to come across. You are taking time to understand someone you previously misunderstood and thus someone will do the same. We get more than one chance to be the people we truly are. There are screw ups but there are also recoveries.
We all want compassion. We all must give compassion.
Finding people's faults, making them worse than you - it accomplishes a purpose. It gives you a connection with someone else, something to talk about, agree upon. It can be satisfying to make a connection by ignoring another. But it is also this ordeal to overcome. When you see them you have to avoid them and be aggravated with them. So much energy and thinking wasted upon separating yourself from the person.
One day though, one day that person will be standing in a different light. Something for some reason will make their vulnerabilities appear. Then you will see that they are looking for the same things you are. They want to be validated. To know they are decent people. To be seen, truly truly seen. And when you take the time to see them. To meet them in their vulnerable place, THAT is satisfying. Satiating. Living. Because you've created a similarity with another person. You've understood again that you are not the only person struggling through ambiguity to clarify how you want to come across. You are taking time to understand someone you previously misunderstood and thus someone will do the same. We get more than one chance to be the people we truly are. There are screw ups but there are also recoveries.
We all want compassion. We all must give compassion.
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